|We learn far more from the mistakes we make than from the things that go well, says our School’s Children’s House Coordinator, Karen Gelson.
This is particularly true for children who are in the process of gaining control over themselves, either physically, emotionally, or intellectually. Mistakes are a natural and integral part of the learning process: just as we stumble before we stride, we stutter before we gain syntax. Young children need time to gain control of themselves and lots of practice when learning something new. It takes time to understand which shoe belongs on which foot or how to grasp the handle of the jug and gain control of your limbs enough to pour precisely with absolute precision.
Dr. Montessori said:
“When the child concentrates their attention on some object that attracts them and which provided them not only with a useful exercise but with a control of error . . . the child becomes calm, radiantly happy, busy, forgetful of themselves and, in consequence, indifferent to prizes or material rewards.”
In a Montessori classroom children have the freedom to make mistakes. They learn to persevere and through repetition of an activity, learn to perfect it. In our school you see just that, a child repeating an activity, exploring the parameters of the possible, ultimately abstracting the concept and understanding it for themselves. The child should never feel judged, especially over things which they, as yet, have very little control.
Lack of confidence and being judged on performance leads to insecurity and the child that might have tried will begin to say, quietly, “I can’t”. Such a statement is bound to break hearts, but we know that every child, given the right incremental scaffolding, can and will be able to build up to their desired goal. With patience and often humour the adult in the classroom can reach out to each child and propel them gently on their way.